Some small things that can help you win.
The first thing you need to understand is you can not win while being in a relationship with a narcissist, the only way to win is to actually leave the relationship because as long as you stay in the relationship her understanding is: you put up with everything.
There are no consequences for her so the only way for you to win is to leave the relationship. If you don’t then she has no incentive to better herself, she has no incentive to change anything about her behavior, she has no incentive to improve anything because she knows that she can do anything she wants and you still stay around.
So that’s the first thing I think we need to understand in order to win against the narcissistic woman.
I think there’s some other things that can be done:
– Have no commitment towards a narcissistic woman.
– Don’t get emotional or let her get a reaction out of you. They try to get a reaction out of you that they can use in order to play a victim and in today’s society people judge others based on the reaction. They don’t see who instigated it or whether or not you were antagonized. It’s something narcissists try to use in order to play a victim towards others.
– Call her out like on who she is. It’s generally good to get a reflection of who we are, same for her. So if she’s reckless, a savage, inconsiderate, miserable, a liar, a cheater then call her that.
– Call her out on any kind of manipulation, the best way to stop manipulation that happens around others is to call it out right when it happens.
– Lower your tolerance. Do not allow everything and don’t put up with everything. Say more often “I don’t tolerate this”, “I don’t tolerate that”.
– Be aware in whatever way she tries to control you. She may try to control you through something she has, it could be kids or anything really. There are many ways of how they’ll try to control you to keep you in the relationship.
The best you can is to just leave, that’s the best you can do in order to win. After you left say what you want to say in a last message if something is left unsaid on your end. Then block her on everything, if you don’t block her the first thing she’s going to do is try to send you blame or guilt towards you and you’re supposed to react to that
Continue focusing on yourself, focusing on bettering your life and bettering your situation.
Consider that everything that she said was possibly a reflection of herself. She probably dumped a lot of things that she was herself on to you because she felt shame over it and won’t acknowledge the shame or her own behavior.
Winning is only possible by leaving because the narcissistic woman needs the pain of losing you. And as life does it. It will repeat and repeat, so she either acknowledges the pain down the line or end up very alone, 50 years old, without family, husband, partner and miserable.
Karma or life will do its thing I don’t think we necessarily have to do anything beyond that. We don’t have to be vengeful but rather just let life or karma do its thing.
